Woman in her Adulthood

WOMAN IN HER ADULTHOOD

After attaining the age of puberty, the woman comes under the Jurisdiction of the Shari'ar Laws. Now, she has to follow all the basic tenets of Islam including Salaat, Fasting, Zakaat & Hajj. She has to fulfil her duties as a Muslim woman & keep away from all minor & major sins. She should serve her parents & other elders & share her love & affection with those younger than her & her elders. She should behave well with her neighbours. She should mould her life according to the Islamic teachings & emerge as a lady of faith, good manners, hard work, humility, patience & contentment.

She should also acquire knowledge about the life that awaits her after the marriage. She should know her responsibilities as a housewife. She can get this training from her mother & other elderly women in the house. She should adopt a life style within the confines of the Islamic Shari'at.

Pardah is a must for a Muslim woman. She should not face men other than real relatives. Real relatives mean those relatives who can never marry her, like her father, brothers, father-in-law, uncles & grandfather. She can go to the market provided that her body is totally covered.

She should read good literature that contains moral teachings. Novels available in the market generally contain cheap sex fictions that should be avoided.

She should perform additional prayers other than the obligatory ones. Recitation of the Holy Quraan & Tasbeeh bring health & happiness to the house. During the days of purity, she should try to be in the state of Wudu throughout the day & if possible, till she goes to bed. The best Zikr for a woman is Tasbeeh-e-Faatima (radi Allahu anha) that is reciting Subhan-Allah 33 times, Alhamdulillah 33 times & Allah-o-Akbar 34 times. This is the Tasbeeh that the Holy Prophet (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) taught his beloved daughter, Sayyidah Faatima az-Zahra (radi Allahu anha).

She should arrange the Niyaaz on selected days of the year particularly on the 11th of Rabi-ul-Akhir (the "Urs" death anniversary of Sayyiduna Ghaus-e-Azam Sheikh Abdul-Qaadir Jilaani - alaihir rahmah) of Baghdad, the 12th of Rabi-ul-Awwal (the Eid-e-Milad-un-Nabi - sallallahu alaihi wasallam), the 6th of Rajab (the "Urs" death anniversary of Khwaja Ghareeb Nawaaz Moinuddin Chishti - alaihir rahmah) of Ajmer & the sacred days like the 10th of Muharram (night & Day of Ashura), 27th of Rajab (night of Me'raaj), the 15th of Sha'ban (Shab-e-Baraat) & the 27th of Ramadaan (Shab-e-Qadr). This arrangement of Niyaaz will bring blessings, peace & prosperity to the house as the Niyaaz will contain the Dhikr of Allah & His beloved ones.